I’m striving to be a better wife than I was a girlfriend. I’ve recently started reading “The Power of a Praying Wife” (Awesome read, I recommend it to all the ladies, married or not), and it’s helping me become more patient, understanding, and most importantly reminds me to pray daily for my husband.
While Mike and I were dating, fights seemed more dramatic, longer, and pointless. Now I’m not saying we don’t have pointless arguments, but we definitely get over it quicker and realize how pointless the argument was (ok, he gets over it quicker than I do, I’ll admit lol). Mike and I are complete opposites when it comes to arguing. I’m loud and I tend to curse (God is really working with me there, and it’s something I’m definitely not proud of), but he’s the total opposite. I’ll be yelling trying to get my point across and at the end of it all he’ll literally say “I’m going to let you think about what you just said and we can talk about it when you’re calm.” How can I still want to argue after that? My husband is literally so calm, gentle, and doesn’t force his point across like I tend to do. He makes me want to become a better wife and a better Christian.
Ladies learn to pick your battles. Arguing with your man because he didn’t do the dishes, or because he left the toilet seat up IS NOT A VALID ARGUMENT. Here’s another hard one that I had to learn, arguing over something that hasn’t happened yet IS NOT A VALID ARGUMENT. If you’re arguing with your man/woman about something he/she hasn’t even done yet, chances are that argument will go absolutely nowhere and you both will just be irritated. If I had a quarter for every time I started an argument with Mike over something he hadn’t even done while were dating, I’d be rich! There’s no such thing as a perfect man/woman. Chances are you have a great spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend by your side but your insecurities won’t let you enjoy them. You can’t keep someone from cheating, it’s just inevitable. If he/she is going to cheat then they weren’t ready for the woman/man you are anyways! They weren’t ready for commitment, and that’s okay you just pray for them, forgive them, and keep it moving. So STOP arguing about the possibility of them being unfaithful, trying to put fear in them isn’t going to keep them from cheating.
The next time an argument starts between you two, stop and think about a few things:
1.) Is this argument even worth it?
2.) Is this something I can live without arguing about?
3.) Am I being rational right now or am I just working off emotion?
4.) Don’t forget to PRAY, PRAY AND PRAY some more.