There are different seasons in your life that you will experience. You’ll have a season of love and happiness, you’ll have a season full of heartbreaks and loneliness, you’ll have a season where you feel like everything is working out in your favor, and you’ll have seasons where you feel like everyone is out to get you. I’ve experienced every one of these seasons, yes, including a broken heart and loneliness. I remember finding myself in the season of being single, broken hearted, and feeling like my world was crashing down. What if I told you that was one of my best seasons of all? What if I told you I’m so thankful for that season and I wouldn’t change that season of my life even if I could? That season made me the woman I am today. You might be thinking, girl you’re crazy! I’m single now and it sucks being alone. Well let me just tell you this, you’re never alone. God is always with you and he’s taking you through this season for a reason.
The bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
So on the days where you feel like you’re never going to find the one, or you just can’t see another engagement picture, or happy couple picture, or anything that reminds you of your season just know that God has heard your prayers, but have you listened to Him? He has ordered your steps to Him and yet you pull further and further away. You spend time thinking about Mr. or Mrs. Right that you start getting so anxious to find him or her and then before you know it, you find yourself thinking every person you meet is the one, only to realize that’s just your flesh talking. You have fed your flesh and then before you know it you find yourself single again and this time with a broken heart. Before you can be anyone’s wife or husband, you first have to learn to submit to your creator. How can you serve your spouse if you can’t even serve the one who gave you life?
Job 22: 21 “Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you. Accept instruction from his mouth and lay up his words in your heart.
My husband and I have recently gone through a rough time with our miscarriages. A family member suggested I read the story of Job. Let me just tell you how faithful this man was. Here is a man that had it all. The house, the wife, the kids, you name it he had it. The enemy as always, tries to kill, steal, and destroy. Satan goes to God and asks if he can test Job’s faith. God allows him to do so as long as he does not kill Job. So the enemy takes everything Job loved, He takes his house, his crops, and even his kids. What’s the first thing Job does? He praises God. The enemy wanted a different reaction and decided that wasn’t enough so the enemy went further and inflicted sickness on him. Now job finds himself completely alone, broken hearted and now super sick. Even through all of the pain and suffering Job knew he served a faithful God and not once did he curse God. He may not have understood why he was going through what he was going through, but not once did he curse God for all that he went through. Instead he cried out to God. He called on God for answers and for healing. So many people try to distract their mind from the pain and they run away from God instead of towards God. We try to fill our time with trash T.V, with trash music, and we run to people for advice (which is okay, but don’t run to people first before you have brought it to God).
Get out of that random person’s bed; stop playing house, stop feeding your flesh and start feeding your spirit. If so many of us picked up our bibles every time we face different situations and learn to trust God with all of our heart, the world would be a much better place and you would be a much better you. The hardest part is being patient. So many times I hear people say, “I’ve been praying for this situation and God has not answered my prayers!” God is going to answer your prayers on His timing, not yours. Right now he wants you to go through this season to grow with him. By no means am I saying it’s going to be easy because it’s not. These past few months I’ve had to remind myself this every day. I’ve been praying for the Lord to help me grow with him and grow in ministry and instead of him giving me just that, he’s put me through many tests. It’s as if the Lord is saying, “Okay Stephanie, you say you trust me, you say you’re following me, well let’s see how you do when your faith is shaken.” It’s so easy to trust God when everything is going right, but let me tell you how hard it is when everything is going wrong. I’m learning and growing through these trials and tribulations, and although I don’t understand them, I will praise Him through the storm.
Whatever you’re going through won’t last forever, so trust and believe in Him. Your broken heart, your loneliness, your sickness, your financial problems, your relationship problems, and whatever else you may be going through won’t last long. God has your back, so let him lead you as you go through these hard times.