A lot of times people think they’re ready to get married, but don’t realize that the person they marry WILL change. They may gain weight, pick up new habits, they may start losing their hair…. or my favorite phrase I always hear “WAIT UNTIL THE KIDS COME!”
Which is why it’s very important that you two become best friends. Let it be more than just physical and sexual. What I often see is that when kids come into the picture, the kids become the focus of the marriage. Ladies if you wake up at the crack of dawn to make your kids breakfast and prepare their lunch…. why would you not want to do the same for your husband?
Everyone that knows me, KNOWS I like my sleep. I need a full 8 hours and I don’t like my sleep to be interrupted. However, I enjoy catering to my man. It literally brings me joy, so I’ve been waking up early (literally just started, don’t judge me lol) and making my husband breakfast. I make him eggs; toast, bacon, and I’ll even cut up some fruit for him. He loves it, and it literally makes me so happy to know that something so simple can make his day!
I may not have any kids yet, but I do know that I don’t want to forget about my marriage when they do come. I want to always “date” my husband and have regular date nights. When our future children grow up and leave us, it will be just him and I again so I want to make sure we always remain best friends. I don’t want to end up with a stranger in my home, where the person I fell in love with and vowed to always love no matter what, becomes a stranger. When the kids move away, when the intimacy goes away, when my body changes and his body changes, I want to still love him, if not more. Obviously I know trials and tribulations will happen, I’m not naive to that, but I want to love my husband (if not MORE) the way I do today.
Which is why he’s my best friend. I literally tell my husband EVERYTHING. We have regular date nights, we laugh at the dumbest things, we have inside jokes, and he knows me better than I know myself…. I NEVER want that to change. To my singles: Make sure the person you decide to marry is someone you are compatible with, someone that you can call your best friend and love of your life. Make sure he/she is someone that brings out nothing but the BEST in you. To my married couples: NEVER stop dating your husband or wife. Make sure they’re your best friends. Don’t make the kids the center of your marriage, because when they’re gone…. it’s just YOU and your spouse.