Life has been going literally non-stop. I always heard being a mom was a full-time job, but to be honest I didn’t quite understand what that meant. I figured, “how hard can it really be?” Ha! I applaud each and every single one of you mamas! I think back on my pre-baby self and how I would complain about being busy and tired and I just literally laugh now. My mom used to always say, “Mija, wait until you become a mother. You don’t know anything about being tired just yet.”
Enough about that, my baby girl is my entire world and I would give my life for her. It’s a love like no other. I can’t even begin to describe. Being a mom is truly a selfless job. It doesn’t matter how tired I am, how crazy my life may seem at the moment, she literally makes it all worth it. She gives me that drive that I never knew I had and I would do it all over again (3 times to be exact ha! I want three babies so hubby needs to get used to that lol!)
In honor of Mother’s day and me being a new mom, I decided to put together a list of 5 things I have learned as a new mom.
- Never compare your self to other moms! Sounds easy right? Well I would often find my self comparing myself to other moms and questioning if I’m doing this thing right. It’s true what they say, not all babies are the same, and hey not all moms are the same either. I chose to breastfeed, but trust me I know how incredibly hard it is to breastfeed and some mamas either just can’t produce enough, or they just have an awful experience. And you know what? That’s OKAY! You know your body and baby best, so do what is best for you and your baby. I can’t stand to see other mamas shaming each other on if they breastfeed or not, give formula, or if they let their babies sleep with them. I’m a part of several mom groups on Facebook and I literally have to hide posts so they won’t pop up on my news feed because every day there’s a mom asking if she’s doing something right and literally every mama has their OWN opinion. Geeze. Just because it worked for you and your baby, doesn’t mean it’s going to work for theirs or mine.
- Take it one day at a time. Can I be completely honest? There are days where I feel completely overwhelmed. Like my house is a mess, I haven’t showered, Aria is LiiiiiiiT (as always haha) and I feel like my to do list just keeps growing and growing. But then I have to stop and take a deep breath and remember life is so much more than just worrying all the time. So what if my house is a mess, I’ll get to it when I can. So what if my to do list seems like it will never end. As long as I’m healthy, my baby is healthy, my hubby is healthy, we have food and shelter….all is well with my soul!
- Your body won’t snapback overnight! About a month ago I literally had a melt down over how I hated the way my body looked. Breastfeeding has caused me to loose a ton of weight and made me so self-conscious. My hubby of course being the amazing man he is, wiped my tears and literally said, “You are so beautiful to me and that’s all that should matter to you, I’m not going anywhere. I married YOU, not your body.” Like can we take a moment and just…sigh* Thank God for my amazing hubby! I literally had to suck up those tears and embrace my new body. This body carried a human being for 9 months! An 8 pound baby to be exact ha! And mind you, I only weighed 108 pounds before getting pregnant! I’m a petite thang!
- Enjoy every moment. I heard moms telling me that while I was still pregnant. One mom put it best. “Enjoy every single stage with Aria, even the newborn sleepless nights because one day you’ll blink and she’ll be all grown up.” Like I want to ball my eyes out right now because that’s legit how I feel. It literally feels like I had her just yesterday. They really do grow way too fast! So each stage that she’s in I try to not rush it and enjoy it. Especially breastfeeding. Gahhhhhh it is such a powerful bond. As tired as I am of getting up in the middle of the night (sometimes twice) to pump her milk, I know this chapter will come to an end so I’m enjoying every moment.
- You’re a great mother! If we’re all honest with ourselves, we all go through moments where we feel like we’re not good enough. Like we feel like we’re failing our kids. I’ve had dramatic moments where I feel like I’m not good enough. Honey the devil is a liar!!!!! You ARE an amazing momma. On days where I feel like this, it’s as if Aria knows and she just looks up at me and gives me the biggest smile, laugh, and says “mama” and legit nothing else matters in that moment! In her eyes, I’m the best thing ever and that’s enough for me.