My Husband is My Best Friend

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A lot of times people think they’re ready to get married, but don’t realize that the person they marry WILL change. They may gain weight, pick up new habits, they may start losing their hair…. or my favorite phrase I always hear “WAIT UNTIL THE KIDS COME!”

Which is why it’s very important that you two become best friends. Let it be more than just physical and sexual. What I often see is that when kids come into the picture, the kids become the focus of the marriage. Ladies if you wake up at the crack of dawn to make your kids breakfast and prepare their lunch…. why would you not want to do the same for your husband?

Everyone that knows me, KNOWS I like my sleep. I need a full 8 hours and I don’t like my sleep to be interrupted. However, I enjoy catering to my man. It literally brings me joy, so I’ve been waking up early (literally just started, don’t judge me lol) and making my husband breakfast. I make him eggs; toast, bacon, and I’ll even cut up some fruit for him. He loves it, and it literally makes me so happy to know that something so simple can make his day!

I may not have any kids yet, but I do know that I don’t want to forget about my marriage when they do come. I want to always “date” my husband and have regular date nights. When our future children grow up and leave us, it will be just him and I again so I want to make sure we always remain best friends. I don’t want to end up with a stranger in my home, where the person I fell in love with and vowed to always love no matter what, becomes a stranger. When the kids move away, when the intimacy goes away, when my body changes and his body changes, I want to still love him, if not more. Obviously I know trials and tribulations will happen, I’m not naive to that, but I want to love my husband (if not MORE) the way I do today.

Which is why he’s my best friend. I literally tell my husband EVERYTHING. We have regular date nights, we laugh at the dumbest things, we have inside jokes, and he knows me better than I know myself…. I NEVER want that to change. To my singles: Make sure the person you decide to marry is someone you are compatible with, someone that you can call your best friend and love of your life. Make sure he/she is someone that brings out nothing but the BEST in you. To my married couples: NEVER stop dating your husband or wife. Make sure they’re your best friends. Don’t make the kids the center of your marriage, because when they’re gone…. it’s just YOU and your spouse.

 

Love,

Mrs. Luster

A woman should know her worth

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A woman should always strive to be the best that she can be. She should be classy, speak positively, work hard, and most importantly build that relationship with God. It makes me so sad that every time I log on social media, I see a woman talking down on their baby daddy, airing out their dirty laundry on social media, talking down on their significant other just because their mad at the moment, posting unlimited club pictures with their breasts taking over half of the picture, and let’s not forget the statuses about how every guy is the SAME, and that they’re done with dating. ATTENTION ladies you CANNOT ask for a Godly man, or a good man, when you don’t have respect for yourself, and you’re not a Godly woman yourself! How can a man respect you if you can’t even respect yourself? What you put out, is what you’ll get in return. You can’t expect a good man to come knocking on your door when every other photo you post is you out at the club with a drink in your hand. It’s NOT going to happen because while you’re out at the club, that good man that you’re asking for is at home spending time with family and getting closer to God.

 

I recently came across an article comparing a women’s role in T.V from back in the day, to now. For example “Clair Huxtable,” a classy family woman that was a dedicated wife and mother. To now, women like Gabrielle Union’s character in “Mary Jane,” or Olivia Pope in scandal. The definition of a sideline, a forever girlfriend, a home wrecker, a classless woman. Is this where society is headed? Where being the sideline is okay, and where sleeping with another woman’s husband isn’t that big of a big deal? I would hope not, but it seems as though there are more “baby mommas” than there are “wives.” Ladies we HAVE to do better. So you made bad decisions in life, we ALL do. Let’s do different, let’s be different. You can’t keep going after the same type of guys and putting yourself in the same type of situation. DO NOT SETTLE AND KNOW YOUR WORTH. You deserve to be with someone who brings out the best in you, a man that respects you, a man that loves you, a man that presents you without flaws or wrinkles. You know deep down inside that he’s NONE of that but yet you stay with him because he PUTS it down in the bedroom, he’s incredibly handsome, he buys you nice things from time to time, he’s good to you when he wants to, or the most common reason you keep him around….you’re not lonely anymore! Well ALL of that means YOU HAVE NO SELF WORTH so how can you expect a man to treat you worthy? 

We have all made mistakes as humans, but it’s time to CHANGE. It’s time to be the Godly woman you yearn to be. It’s time to be a role model to young girls everywhere. It’s time to be a virtuous woman!

Love,

Mrs. Luster

The engagement

It feels like it was yesterday when Michael popped the big question! It’s something I’ll never forget and one of the BEST days of my life (next to the wedding of course!) It’s seriously an indescribable feeling. I literally felt like I was on cloud nine. It felt like a moment out of a movie, where everything else around me was moving in slow motion and I all could see was Mike getting down on one knee. My heart was filled with so much joy that I could hardly contain myself!

Mike and I always talked about marriage, but with me moving away to Oklahoma to start my journey as a news reporter….I thought it would take a little longer. Shortly after the engagement came the “Oh no what about my job” moment. I put a deposit down on an apartment in Oklahoma and I was moving in exactly one month! I was crushed. I felt like I had everything I’d ever wanted, but now I had to choose between my career and my man. I didn’t want to give up my career AT all, but I know I wanted to be my man’s side as we planned our life together too. We agreed that I was still going to move to Oklahoma and start my career and we’d work it out like we always did, but that didn’t settle well with me. I had nightmares about missing my wedding, us breaking up, something terrible happening to me while I was away in a town that I knew NOTHING about. Then the big decision came….us moving in together.

Everything happened so fast that we didn’t really have time to process ANYTHING. I cancelled the deposit for my apartment in Oklahoma, and we decided to move to Sanger, Tx. It was the middle point for both of our jobs. I would drive an hour to Oklahoma, and he would drive an hour to Addison EVERYDAY for nearly a year. We were in our apartment for about a month, but for some reason it just didn’t feel right. We were living together BEFORE marriage. How could we ask for God’s blessing in our marriage based off of lust and sin? So…….We decided to do it God’s way and get married. February 15th, 2013 was the day I OFFICIALLY became Mrs. Luster.

My father-in-law married us in the living room of my parent’s house. Only our immediate family members were in attendance. It’s a moment I’ll never forget. Not only because I became Mrs. Luster, but to have my father-in-law officially marry us, is just AMAZING. We decided not to tell anyone because I still wanted my wedding day to be special, and well simply because it was OUR decision. I also did NOT want to hear “Girl why didn’t you guys just wait until your wedding day to get married?”

It was the BEST decision ever! To know that we did it the right way, and that we’re still doing things the right way is just an awesome feeling. It feels amazing to be married with the blessing of Christ. I feel like our marriage is fireproof at this point. If we ALWAYS remember to keep Christ first, we’ll be just fine! It’s something I wish for every woman. Get to know Christ and let HIM choose the man for you! ❤

Love,
Mrs. Luster

A couple that travels together, stays together!

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It is so important for a husband and wife to travel as much as they can. It’s a time for the both of you to relax, get away, and most importantly spend time with JUST each other. Mike and I spent the weekend in Florida and It couldn’t have been more amazing. I felt like a teen in love all over again. We spent time at the beach walking, laughing, and really just enjoying each other’s company. There was several people around us, but it felt like it was just the two of us. 

I can’t express enough how  amazing it feels to be married to a man of God. One that protects me, nurtures me, loves me, and most importantly a man that makes me want to become a better wife! I can’t tell you how many times Mike and I get asked, “when are the babies coming?” Trust me…baby fever is in FULL effect, but right now we really just want to enjoy being married and taking as many trips as we can. Yes, we talk about children ALL the time, but we both agreed that we have plenty of time to have children. It’s important to take care of your marriage first. As a young girl I always heard older women say “When you get married, enjoy being married first before you decide to have children,” and that’s exactly what I plan to do. 

Here’s to many more trips with the love of my life!!!!!!! 

 

Love, 

Mrs. Luster

 

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Single life is actually the preferred life

Mike and I recently visited a church in Plano and the pastor spoke on single life. He started out by saying “single life is the preferred life.” When this man said this I was so confused. I was thinking to myself “you mean being single is better than being married?” I was ready to just walk out of the church at this point, but as he kept on , it made complete sense! When you’re single, you have more time to devote yourself to the Lord and “HIS” plan, not “YOUR” plan. He compared single life to Jesus’ life. When Jesus came and left this earth, he was single. So for singles to think they have bad because they don’t have anyone to cuddle with at night, well they’re saying Jesus was a lame too! Then he broke down single life (the way women view it ) into two categories.

The woman that has the OVER desire to get married:

You have some woman that ALL they think about is getting married. They have their wedding dress already picked out, they know what kind of flowers they want, what dress they’ll be wearing, even down to the exact  ring they want (I was guilty of this too). They pray to God for their prince charming and they think that every man that walks into their life is “the one,” only to get disappointed and find out he was far from it.

The woman that has the UNDER desire to get married: 

Then you have some women that swear they’ll never get married and that their done with men because they’ve been hurt way too man times. They’re bitter towards love and hate seeing happy couples. They think all men are dogs, liars, and cheaters. They put up this tough persona because they don’t want to get hurt again.

Marriage and single life should both be held high. Marriage is a beautiful thing when done right and when done under “God’s” timing, NOT yours. Singles should be worried about praising the Lord instead of trying to find that perfect relationship just so they can fit in with what “society” makes us think about relationships. Too many people are focused on social media, and NOT on God. Too many girls are tying to find their “boo” to post pictures with on instagram and Facebook! When someone asks you why you’re still single and why you haven’t gotten married yet, that’s just the Devil trying to bring you down and block you from your blessings! Of course people want to be married, and God blesses that, but truly focus on him and the ultimate marriage, which is when you see christ.

 

SOOOOOOO, to my singles, if you make your over desire to God, you will do that when you’re married. You should want to be  with somebody who’s hard working for God! A man that will lead the way a man is supposed to lead! Which means you have to be hard working for him as well. Ladies, you can’t be asking for a Godly man, if you’re not a Godly woman. This goes to the fellas as well, look for a Godly woman! Don’t look for a woman that’s more concerned with “partying” all the time.

 

Love,

Mrs. Luster